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Wednesday, September 1st, 2010

The summer may be over, but we still have more stories to share from the campers of 2010! We love hearing campers’ stories of growth and accomplishment and sharing the benefits of summer camp with others!

It’s like something out of a dream. My seventh, and last, year at Sanborn. How did the time go by so fast? I still feel as if I’m in Kinnikinnik or maybe even Columbine, comfortable in the middle with years left to return home to Colorado. Sanborn has always been such an integral part of my life, even before I officially started coming, I grew up on my brother’s camp stories, counting the years until I could come myself…And now it’s almost over, my entire Sanborn career. Is it fair? Not really. Of course, some could argue that I’ve already had my run, but then again, I’ve been here so long that I feel on par with some of the office staff. Conceited. I know, but it’s how I feel. I just never thought that Sanborn would end, and I wish I didn’t have to leave!

- JC, 2010

My Wonderful Years at Sanborn: Right now I am thinking of the right words to say, but it is soo hard to think about all the things we do here! I love all the things about Sanborn! A week at Sanborn is…Monday, wait I can’t say what a week is like because you get to pick what you want to do everyday! There are about 15 activities to pick from everyday. WOW! I cannot wait for more years to come!

- Sierra Z.

Since my long trip, I feel I have become a more confident rider and become more confident in myself! Jessie, Pippa, and Laura’s encouragement helped me through all the bumps in the road for 4 full days! How to thank them? No idea! I just know I’ll never forget my 4-day horse trip in 2010!

- Maddie Mac.

I love camp! I’ve made so many new friends and have tried new and amazing things. Sanborn has really helped me challenge myself and learn who I really am inside. I hope all the friends I’ve made will stay my friends forever. Everyone here is great and all the girls have taught me a lot. I DON’T WANT to leave! I love it here!

- India Upton

Summer Camp: The Kitchen of Human Relations

Tuesday, July 27th, 2010

Happy Campers: An essential ingredient

Beyond the incredible opportunities for personal growth, exposure to the natural world, and the connection (or reconnection) with one’s sense of wonder, camp provides campers a unique opportunity to build a community from the ground up.

Building these communities is a little like baking at high altitudes: there are plenty of modifications to the recipe you can try…but you are never sure exactly which one is going to work.

Take our recipe for a FANTASTIC cabin/unit community at Sanborn:

9-10 happy campers
2 dedicated, attentive counselors
1 personable, knowledgeable assistant counselor
3 tons of positive attitude
1 ton of mutual respect
100 lbs. of integrity
18 gallons of flexibility
10 quarts of compromise
80 lbs of problem solving techniques
5 buckets of perseverance
5 buckets of resilience
1 truckload of empathy
A bunch of new experiences
A dash (or 200) into the outdoors  for new perspective
An infinite number of amazing opportunities and fun to be had!

Teambuilding activities build community

That said, sometimes campers or staff unintentionally modify our ideal recipe.  Occasionally, some snarky comment gets spilled in, or a selfish behavior is added, or—in some cases—an entire ingredient is forgotten or substituted.  And, like the high altitude cake with incorrect modifications, you find yourself with a crumbly, grumbly, salty mess on your hands.

Yet unlike the adult world, where it is sometimes more admissible (and far easier) to just cut your losses and walk away…at camp, these are the people you are living and working with for the rest of your summer.  You have to figure out what went wrong and try to fix it…otherwise, your summer simply won’t be as sweet.

You never expect the first cake you bake at 8,600 feet will turn out perfectly (though you do hope it will be edible)—similarly, you cannot expect the desires, wills, values, beliefs, emotions, and hormones of 13 unique individuals to always line up and converge in perfect harmony.  So you tinker with the ingredients: you teach the staff some new problem solving techniques, spend time getting to know each camper very well, and you show everyone support, gratitude, forgiveness and empathy along the way.

Fun and silliness at camp!

It is easy to get frustrated with a crumbly cake or with someone you are living with…but the cake won’t respond to your irritation or anger any better than a person.  So, through the daily mix of ingredients in our living units, on trips, on activities, and everywhere at camp, we create a unique and ephemeral “Daily Special.”  Because of all the factors involved, a day at camp cannot be repeated.  Each day is unique, it never has been, or ever will be the same again.  Some leave a bit of a sour taste in your mouth, others will represent the high point of your life for many years to come.

At the heart of camp, just like at the heart of cooking, is the playful spirit and desire for fun, wholesome experiences—the experiences that all campers and staff are seeking from their summer in the Colorado mountains.

And the best part?  There are NEVER too many cooks in this kitchen.

Getting to the Top

Monday, July 5th, 2010

Celebration for a Lifetime

Twelve different groups from Big Spring and High Trails stood on the summits of thirteen Colorado mountains last week.  Other campers will have this awe-inspiring experience in the coming week.  Climbing a mountain is a real accomplishment and an exciting adventure.  To crawl out of a warm sleeping bag before dawn and face the brisk morning temperatures is an act of courage in itself.  The long climb upward, step-by-step, requires perseverance, commitment, and teamwork.

The Alpine tundra is beautiful, dotted by tiny forget-me-nots and other flowers.  Often we are fortunate enough to spot marmots, ptarmigans and other mountain wildlife.  The best moment of all, though, is stepping onto the summit and catching a first glimpse of the spectacular vistas.  Climbers always gain a well-deserved feeling of pride, and the self-confidence that comes from “making it to the top”.

Climbing a mountain provides so many benefits for young people. Youth development research tells us that young people need challenging and engaging activities and learning experiences in order to grow into confident, happy adults.  Reaching the summit requires hard work, determination and a lot of self-discipline. Mountain climbing stretches perspectives as well as legs, and it takes place in some of the most stunningly beautiful places on Earth.

Mountaineer Sir John Hunt said “The true result of endeavor, whether on a mountain or in any other context, may be found rather in its lasting effects than in the few moments during which a summit is trampled by mountain boots.  The real measure is the success or failure of the climber to triumph, not over a lifeless mountain, but over himself.”

We have many truly triumphant individuals in our midst.  The successes our campers experience at camp will be revisited countless times throughout their lives…and they will be better, stronger, and happier because of it.

Camper Posts…

Friday, July 2nd, 2010

Activities!!!

I love the activities here at camp. There are so many options to choose from, like swimming, hiking, making flubber, horseback riding, and much much more. When you’re a Junior (which is for two weeks), you don’t get to choose as many of your activities, but if you come for a month, you can choose from different activities and you can sign up for long trips! I love Sanborn so much!!!

Olivia Seely

I am so excited / nervous for Mount Sherman on Tuesday, but I know it will be awesome. I just got back from June Holiday Overnight, and we camped out in Heisler Hall. We made Christmas decorations, made holiday cookies, went caroling, and listened to holiday music the whole time.

Grace Wood

Roses are red; Violets are blue; Camp is half over and I am so blue.

I’ve spent the last two weeks getting to know your girls. Everyday they surprise me. The stories they tell, the insight they have, their kindness… I could go on for days telling something about all the girls I’ve had on activities and the girls in my cabin. They’ve shown me how to open my eyes and see as a kid again. How small I am AND how important I can be (especially when comforting a homesick girl or one who has had a bad day). I know how important these girls are to you and just how important you are to them, so thank you for sharing them with us this summer! They have taught us so much already.

Ann Young

Tuesday, June 1st, 2010

To live together in the outdoors, building a sense of Self, a sense of Community, a sense of the Earth, and a sense of Wonder through fun and adventure.

I love our Sanborn Western Camps mission statement. It is rich and varied; succinct and pointed; it represents both years of summer camp experience and the vibrancy of each new camp season; it celebrates the individual and the team; it embraces and enhances our connections to each other, ourselves, and to the world as a whole; it reminds us that growth is intensely personal, but is maximized when shared; and it isn’t a didactic lecture, delivered by the learned professor–it is an afternoon studying multi-colored lichen on some high mountain rocks, a leisurely walk through elk-chewed aspen groves, a game of hide-and-seek among the montane grasses and trees, and children laughing, talking, and growing around a Colorado campfire.

Our mission statement is transcendent and universal…we want it to share it in as many ways as possible. We want every child and adult to understand what gifts they can gain when they spend a summer at Sanborn, when they spend a lifetime in the outdoors. We want the Sanborn mission statement to “make sense” to our staff, so we have designed a set of “Six Staff Senses” to help make the mission statement real. Parents, teachers, outdoor advocates, experiential educators and more can use these “senses” to help bring the life lessons, values/ethics, fun and adventure of the summer camp experience to your every day life. Enjoy.

The Six Staff Senses

1. Seeing/Vision: To “see” both the outside and inside of every child; being able to see/know everything all at once; the past, present, & future; seeing through different lenses—what do parents see, what does the camp community see, what do the campers see, what do I see; visualizing the impact of the natural world and the camp experience on campers—seeing through the goals you set for the campers and for yourself.

2. Hearing/Listening: REALLY learning to listen and HEAR campers and their needs; hear the words between the words; hear the hurt/fear/frustration behind the action; pause to listen to the lessons of camp; allow yourself to listen to your heart and your gut…good judgment comes from within.

3. Smelling: Olfactory memories are some of the strongest around; make sure and have your campers stop and smell the trees/grass/morning/evening/post-storm/flowers/desserts etc.. Smell is also a complicated memory maker—it has to be associated w/ other elements to become memorable—so take TIME to sculpt those memorable (and fragrant!) moments.

4. Taste/Food: Eating is VERY important at camp; it is respectful community building in our family style/campfire meals; it is ritual in our plate scraping/mabel waiting; it is celebration in our song/birthday parties/theme dinners/banquets/post-climb meals; it is analyzation in our end-of-the-day dinner discussions/observations of kids eating; it is nourishment for the body and the soul—be present, be aware.

5. Touch/Feeling: “The shortest distance between two people is a smile.” “A smile is the light in the window of your face that tells people you’re at home.” All summer long: BE PRESENT. The benefits of hugs, smiles, nods of affirmation, high fives of celebration will not work if you are not there to share those feelings, share the physical connections, share the summer with your campers and yourself.

6. Wonder: Each day is a god—make it be so in everything your do.

Make the mission make sense–the more you practice and play, the less abstract this job and the world will become.

School Weeks Ends…Summer Begins (Almost)

Wednesday, May 12th, 2010

We finished our school weeks program today. It went very well! We had 1,202 students and 231 high school students participate in the High Trails outdoor education program. While we might not see the immediate impact that we had on these students, the evaluations that teachers fill out provide us the encouragement to know their students grew from their time at High Trails. We had high school students returning for their second or third year to be a member of the leadership program; schools have already signed-up to come back next year; students talked about wanting to come back as high school students; and there were even students who talked about their parents coming to High Trails. What a cool history!

While we are sad that school weeks has come to an end, we are definitely looking forward to the summer beginning. We are getting things going around here – cleaning the lodges, flying tents, setting up cabins, finishing program updates – and staff will start arriving in the next couple of weeks, then campers arrive soon after that!

I think one of the best parts of this job is that everything is always changing. Spring and summer require different teaching methods, both challenging and fun in their own ways. During the spring we see new students and schools every week. We may be teaching the same material several weeks in a row, but it is always different in how students relate to the material, appreciate the surroundings, ask questions, and participate. During the summer we are fortunate that campers stay for 2 or 4 weeks. We are able to work with the same campers and teach them new skills and information each interaction.

We won’t see as many children come through our program during the summer as we did this spring. We look to have the same impact on their lives, spring or summer. Teaching and learning take on a new meeting at while outdoors and while at summer camp. The experiences and adventures that take place here at High Trails, Big Spring, and Sanborn in general are meant to challenge students and campers, while helping them grow as individuals and community members. And most importantly, they are FUN!

We will keep you updated over the next couple of weeks on things around camp and be sure to check back this summer for posts written by our campers!

Teaching By Being: How We Teach Campers

Friday, April 30th, 2010

Much of the impact we have as youth development professionals happens just because we are role models.  Campers look to their counselors for guidance, wisdom, and to learn more about the people they want to become.  The quote, “act as though what you do makes a difference,” is a perfect line for camp counselors–because who you are as much as what you do DOES make a difference.  Here is a list of 10 ways to help teach your campers essential life skills, to build a strong relationship with your camper, and to model happy, healthy, and enriching behaviors.

Summit Success on Mount Silverheels

1.  Respect:  A camper who is treated with respect at camp will have self-respect.  He will learn to cooperate and have empathy for others.

2.  Listening:  Listen to your campers’ stories, hopes, and worries.  Hear them and respond.  They will learn to listen to others.

Singing "Rocky Mountain High" at the start of a backpacking trip.

3.  Patience:  A camper who sees you are not afraid of failure, who sees you fiinish what you begin, will try, try again until he succeeds.

4.  Trust:  Keep your promises.  Your campers will be trustworthy.

5.  Work:  A camper who shares in the daily work at camp will learn to be responsible.

Practicing the art of the lasso, Big Spring Barn

6.  Honesty:  If a camper is taught and shown how to respect the truth, if he sees justice used to solve problems at home, he will know right from wrong.

7.  Time:  All children, not only at camp, spell love T-I-M-E.  If your camper owns enough one-on-one time with you each day, she will have confidence because she knows she has value.

Reading stories around the campfire together

8.  Downtime:  Give your campers time to read, reflect and dream for at least 20 minutes every day.  They will learn to take time for themselves.  They will learn to concentrate.  They will forget how to be “bored.” They will learn critical thinking and be set free to dream.

9.  Writing:  Give your camper time and encouragement to write in or draw in a journal.  Praise his efforts.  He will carry these efforts away to home and school.  He will connect writing with enjoyment and will then write with and for pleasure.

Great staff members help build great campers!

10.  Habits:  Campers need quiet time every day.  They need a good night’s sleep and regular meals of wholesome food, instead of sugar snacks.  They need to wash their hands and use good manners with everyone.  They need to be outdoors, instead of watching TV and playing video games.  Good habits make good campers.

Adventures with the Five Senses

Tuesday, April 13th, 2010

As part of the national Children and Nature Awareness Month, we wanted to share some extra special outdoor activities that you can do with your friends and family to get you outside and enjoying the spring weather in your neighborhood.  A great thing to create, and to bring with you to camp, is a nature journal or sketchbook.  If you start collecting all of your experiences (and a feather, cool leaf, and pressed flower or two) in a journal, then you will have a great record of seasonal changes, observations, and all of the outdoor fun you experienced in 2010.

Keep a Nature Journal on all of your adventures

Using our five senses (sight, sound, taste, touch, smell) is a great way to interact with the natural world and to learn and experience things you have never noticed before.  And, in spring, the natural world is coming alive again…so you should get out and enjoy it!

Think of every walk outside as a Five Senses Hike.  Be mindful of not only what you see, but what you can hear, smell, feel — even (with caution) taste!

Here are a few activities that will help you use your senses while you are outside this spring:

How Far?  How Close?  Get Some Perspective!
(adapted from Today Is Fun and 101 Nature Activities)

Materials needed:

  • Nature Journal or Sketchbook
  • 100 inch piece of string
  • A day pack with everything you need for a fun afternoon outside (just like at camp!): water bottle, sunscreen, warm layer/rain layer, and wear sturdy shoes!

Hike up to the top of a hill, or anywhere you can find a view and see how far you can see.  Can you see a distant mountain range, a far-away hill, a tall building downtown, a really tall tree?  How many miles away is that particular place/object?  Bring a nature journal to jot down ideas about distance, and to sketch an image of what you are seeing.  When you get home, look up that place/object using Google Earth, or pull out a map with the features/intersections you could see.  Did you underestimate or overestimate the distance?

Before you head home, though, pull out your 100 inch piece of string and find an interesting natural area.  Place the string on the ground and explore the area along the string very carefully.  Look for signs of animals, birds, or insects; distinctive characteristics of any plant along the trail; texture of soil or sand; different colors, etc..  Record your findings in your nature journal.

By closely examining a very small area, one can discover wonders which otherwise might be overlooked.  Shrinking our field of perception often adds to our awareness.  Now think about how far you could see when you were up high, and how much you saw when you were down low.  How much more of the natural world would we appreciate if we just took time to see near, far, and everywhere in between?

Do You Smell What I Smell?

Materials needed:

  • An imaginative, descriptive mind
  • Your nose

Take a walk focusing your sense of smell on the nature around you.  What does the bark of the trees in your neighborhood smell like?  (We think Ponderosa Pine tree bark—which grow at camp—smells like vanilla or butterscotch)  What do different plants, flowering trees/bushes, or grass smell like?  Why do different things have different smells?

Once you have descriptions for the smells around you—have a smell scavenger hunt with your friends and family—see if they can find a “plant that smells like a skunk” or “a flower that smells like peaches.”  Creating the descriptions will be almost as fun as finding the correct natural object!

Sound Tapestry

Materials needed:

  • Nature journal/sketchbook
  • Colored pencils
  • Attentive ears

Take a walk to a park or local open space—find a comfortable, special spot in the outdoors (if possible, have some of your friends sit in an open meadow, others down in the trees and bushes, and others still near a stream or water).  Sit quietly and listen for birds, grasses, and other sounds in nature for 10 minutes.  As you listen to each distinct sound, think about what that sound “looks” like.  What color is it?  Is it a smooth, wavy, or rough sound? Is it loud or soft?  Once you have an idea what the sound looks like, use your colored pencils to draw a picture of each of the different sounds you hear.  After your ten minutes of listening and drawing, create a “key” for the sounds you heard at the bottom of your sketch.

Bag of Rocks

Materials needed:

  • Rocks of different sizes, shapes, textures collected from the outdoors
  • A cloth bag big enough to reach into
  • A heightened sense of touch

A blindfolded hike makes you use other senses

Head outdoors and find a collection of different rocks.  Have each person in your family, or each of your friends, chose a rock and “get to know it”.  How does it feel?  How many sides does it have?  What color is it?  Does it have any marks on it?  Is it heavy or light?  Then have everyone put their rock into a bag.  Mix up all of the rocks.  Each person must reach into the bag and attempt to find their rock WITHOUT using their sense of sight.  How easy is itto find a particular rock?  How is one rock different from another rock?  How does your sense of touch compare to your other senses?

Oh The Wonderful Things Mr. Brown Can Taste

Materials needed:

  • Edible plants field guide
  • Adventurous adult
  • A sophisticated palate

Remember the “5 Second Rule”? or the phrase, “God made dirt, so dirt won’t hurt?”  Though we do not recommend eating plant material or other items found in the natural world…there are certain things you can taste—and see ifthey taste like they smell!  (To make sure you aren’t tasting anything that could make you sick—check out a book on edible plants in your area—and never, ever, ever bite or taste a mushroom.)

Things you can bite, taste, lick in the outdoors:

  • Honeysuckle flowers and nectar inside
  • Pine tree sap
  • Juniper berries
  • Wild onions
  • Tree bark
  • Herbs like sage or rosemary
  • Grass (chew on the base and the leaf parts)
  • And, if you are brave enough, you can lick an ant…it tastes like lemon!

After using all of your senses in the outdoors, you can share your love of the natural world with your friends and family by creating a Nature Table to display your sketches, collections, natural treasures at home. (from nwf.org)

Make a Nature Table
There are many ways you can display natural treasures in your home:

  • Nature Table or Shelf: Designate a flat surface for shells, acorns, etc. Use colored fabric to protect the surface (and to add a decorative note). For a little extra fun, make it a mini-museum, using folded index cards as name plates for each item.
  • Vase: A clear vase can store a lot of less delicate items — rocks, shells, nuts, etc — in a relatively small space.
  • Shoe Holder: Place objects in a hanging shoe organizer with clear pockets, found at many dollar stores or other discount retailers.
  • Box It Up: The many different compartments in a tackle, sewing or tool box are great organizers.

What are your favorite sensory awareness games or activities to do in the natural world?  Do you have a nature space at home?

From the Archive: Top 10 Things I’ve Learned at Summer Camp (that make me a better parent)

Thursday, April 8th, 2010

This post first appeared in April 2009 on our previous blog.

Part II

The second edition of the two part series about skills I learned while working as a summer camp youth development professional at Sanborn Western Camps. These top five are, in my mind, some of the most important tools to practice…but they are also some of the hardest parenting, and counseling, skills remember. In the end, if we screw up (which we will), a genuine apology, a good hug, and time spent together in the outdoors will make the challenges and bad feelings evaporate–and give everyone the room they need to breathe. Enjoy!

Developing a sense of Self--and style--takes time

5. Respect their individuality. Making    comparisons between children (siblings, bunk mates) is a terrible mistake. Very few of us deliberately say things like, “I wish you could be MORE like Alice…” but plenty of us are guilty of saying, “Look at how well Alice cleared the table…” with the sibling or the rest of the children filling in the end of the sentence, “…and YOU didn’t.” Appreciate each child’s unique gifts. Know each child’s unique gifts. Celebrate those gifts in a one-on-one setting, don’t put one child on a pedestal in front of any others. Don’t love equally, love uniquely.

4. Never forget: It is the ACTION, not the person, you need to modify through discipline. There are no “bad kids” only “bad choices”. It is hard to emotionally remove yourself from a situation that has you incensed…but you must. That said, it is equally essential to voice your feelings, “We all have been working as a group to stop gossiping about other campers, because it is very hurtful and damaging to our community. The rumor that you started IS hurtful and damaging. You are not a mean girl, you just made a bad choice and I want to understand WHY you made that choice.” Tantrums (pre-school or pre-teen) are an outstanding time to practice empathy, not judgment.

Wonder is everywhere

3. Kids need time to simply be themselves. To simply be kids, to simply be playing, to simply be silly, to simply be curious, to simply be grumpy, to simply be happy, to simply be thoughtful, to simply be alone, to simply be playing with others, to simply be outside, to simply be strong, to simply be scared, to simply be human. Never underestimate the power of unstructured free play in the outdoors—kids will learn more about themselves and others in that environment than during a lifetime of soccer games. Boys, mine especially, really love taking long walks outside while singing silly songs, running races, picking up pinecones, inventing games, and actually talking to their momma.

2. The ability to manage and control one’s emotions effectively is a trait that many happy, wise successful adults all have in common. Providing children tools to practice emotional management is vital for creating a healthy, well-balanced society. A parent’s job is to raise a child that she wants to “release” into the world…and to begin that slow release the day the child is born. Beware of enabling behaviors that seem like safe alternatives. Make challenging situations into positive learning experiences. Promising a homesick child she can come home if she “hates camp” before she even arrives strips her of the ability to work through a tough experience and be proud of the resilience she developed on her own is no different than promising candy if you can make it through the grocery store without a fit.

cool duds

Like father, like son, like brother...

1. 80% of what children hear and learn is what they see. Humans learn through mimicry. Kids will only be as good at these skills as you are…and parents, camp counselors, and camp professionals should never stop trying to do these things at home, at work, with friends, and with family. Because, in the end, children will see all of you faults, and love you anyway.

If you are interested in more tips from the camp world about parenting, preparing your child for camp and for life, as well as some cutting edge conversations about youth development, please continue to visit the Sanborn Western Camps blog–and also check out Bedtime Stories for Parents and parent resources on the ACA website.

From the Archive: Top 10 Things I’ve Learned at Summer Camp (that make me a better parent)

Wednesday, April 7th, 2010

This post first appeared in April 2009 on our previous blog.

Part I

Most of these lessons apply to littles, middles, and beyond...

I love summer camp. Being a camper, being a camp counselor, being a camp director, being a parent—I have made summer camp a part of my life and, now, part of the lives of my children. That said, it is remarkable how quickly you forget some of the cardinal rules you learned while you were a 20-something summer camp counselor about working with kids when your own children are in mid-meltdown about the shark show that “Daddy promised!” they could watch if they ate all of their mixed veggies. Sigh.

In order to help me regain my sanity, I have compiled a list of some of the most effective tools I have found for working with kids in the summer camp (and home!) setting, whether the kids are mine, yours, your sisters’, your neighbors, or “that kid” from down the street. I would love to hear from wise parents, youth development professionals, and other summer camp believers about kid-centric tools and techniques you find have worked for you. Since this is a two-part series, you may see some of your ideas in the next post.

10. The Power of Choice: Give kids real decision making opportunities by providing them with choices you can live with (i.e.: Do you want to clean the toilets before or after you make your bed? or What are your goals for this summer camp session? Do you want to climb a bunch of mountains or do you want to ride horses? Or Do you want to help mom set the table or do you want to make the salad for dinner tonight?). By doing this, you empower kids to take responsibility and ownership for their own actions.

"Should we play in the mud?"....Yes we should!

9. Allow kids to define their own boundaries; facilitate the boundary creation. Give them ways to “frame” things in the positive: We’re going to the zoo today, what SHOULD we do at the zoo? We SHOULD stay together, we SHOULD wait our turn to look at the otters, we SHOULD have lots of fun. And what SHOULDN’T we do?…. “RUN!” “Eat too much candy!” “Feed the lions!” “Cut in line!” “Talk back!” You quickly learn that many children, even very young ones, have a great understanding of right from wrong…and by “framing” activities before they even begin, they can more readily “own” their actions and are more willing to respond if they accidentally do something they SHOULDN’T do.

8. If conflicts do occur, make kids right about what they need to be right about. “She hit me first.” “Yes. I saw that she hit you first. Why did she hit you, do you think?” Also, in heated situations, never make assumptions. Ask A LOT of questions and remember that most kids WANT to do the right thing…but sometimes they just forget how to do it. Don’t put kids in a box that they can’t get out of—during conversations, as they are growing up, socially, etc.. A great technique for getting a kid to talk is to MOVE. Children, especially boys, can have a hard time expressing their feelings if they feel like an adult is standing there, waiting for an answer, and “pressuring” them to say something. If you can remove the child from the situation and go for a walk (ideally outdoors), the questions you ask may elicit more than the standard, “I dunno” answers.

7. When they make bad choices, assign real and timely consequences. This one takes practice and you have to know your children or campers very well in order to assign a consequence that is neither too harsh nor too lenient for the action. I will often make sure I—with the help of the kids–have “framed” the entire experience so any resulting “bad choices” already have consequences assigned (i.e.: “We decided as a group that people who don’t help with clean-up today won’t get to have any of Emily’s cake after clean-up. SO…is everyone ready to win cabin clean-up today?”). That also takes some of the emotional volatility out of the situation. If everyone knows what will happen and when, I am not perceived as being arbitrary or unfair.

Opportunities to practice leads to self-efficacy and confidence

6. Give them plenty of opportunities to practice making both good and, inevitably, bad choices. Give them a safe framework to practice in…overnight camp is an outstanding, safe place to practice decision-making. Overnight camp provides a community with multiple supportive adults who genuinely want each child to have an outstanding camp experience. Through their interactions with other adults and children, who may or may not have similar interests and experiences, kids learn how to make and keep friends, practice perseverance and resilience, and gain a better understanding of themselves…all of which helps them become wise decision-makers.

Next time, Part II! I look forward to hearing your thoughts….